When you are first starting visitation, you may have an idea of how you want everything to look. In reality, you may find with visitation that things may be awkward or uncomfortable. At first, things will not look how you imagine them too. Time is the key to being able to achieve the relationship you want with your children. Given time and your best effort towards visitation, you will be able to build a lasting relationship that feels natural. It is important to remember that relationships build over time.